Our society as a whole is failing miserably in the successful marriage category. Similar to the current foreclosure crisis in our country where for each foreclosure reported there are more people suffering day to day in the struggle to keep their homes. With marriage and divorce there is a similar equation. With each divorce there are countless other relationships languishing in discontent and misery.
How do we turn the tables on this trend and create more successful marriages? Marriages and relationships begin with such hope and positive expectations for a picture book, fairy tale relationship. Perhaps that is part of the problem. Every rose has its thorns.
I've taken the time to interview couples who have been together for over 20 years. The people who seem the most content in their marriages share some striking characteristics that everyone in any relationship should be aware of and put in practice every day.
Commitment is the key. In every solid relationship there is a sense of commitment that is unwavering. There is a sense that no matter how stormy the seas become, abandoning the ship is not an option. Many couples made the commitment years before that the word divorce or separation would never be spoken in the context of the relationship. Once these words are used in a relationship there will always be the underlying threat of either divorce or separation being an option in the mind of at least one individual. Why not make that commitment today to your spouse that those words are off limits from now on?
Mutual acceptance and respect create immunity from within. When a partner feels respected, cherished, adored and in spite of their small foibles and character flaws, they are less likely to be offended or hurt if a partner says something unkind or acts in a less than positive manner towards their spouse. Likewise in a loving relationship where mutual acceptance is the rule rather than the exception, it is much less likely that a partner would ever say or do something that would hurt the other. We are all human and as such we will always make mistakes in how we handle situations or conflict. If both partners are accepting of each other then the conflicts will be resolved quickly without escalation.
Never stop courting your spouse! It's possible to be totally committed, accepting of your spouse and respectful of their needs and yet both be completely bored after much time together. Rekindle your love and do the things you've always enjoyed together. Travel to places you enjoyed together previously. Go for the romantic walk that you shared when you first met.
Marriage is a big leap of faith yet with proper care and understanding it is possible to build a marriage that will withstand the test of time. For a limited time you can visit our site for a free mini course to Save Your Marriage Today
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